Originally Posted by CaptZebra
Are these requests reasonable? Do I need to have a good reason as to why I am asking for these things? Is it important that I share my reasons (of course, I will tell her if she asks)?
Well, if you're a reasonable person then of course you should have a good reason for any requests you make.
Lots of people are going to have lots of different opinions as to whether it's reasonable or not. For some it won't be, for others it will be. Hopefully, I'll be with partners who agree with me on what is reasonable. But in your case there are only two opinions that matter: yours and your partner's.
So why are you not asking your partner this question? Because if you think it's reasonable and she thinks it isn't, you have much more to talk about than what happens on her dates.