Again, you two are telling completely different stories. In her first post, KLP made it sound like she simply wasn't ready to have sex yet. And now you say, she's said never. Until you two can present a remotely united story, I'm not sure how expect us to give you any advice other than to improve your communication skills.
It sounds like this is a highly charged emotional situation so many presenting your perspectives (both of them) in great detail, on here, so you can each see where you are coming from would be helpful. Allow you to vent and see the other side in more removed, fixed way.