Hello everyone. I am a male member of a polyfidelitous quad. I have suffered through depression off and on and am currently suffering through it now which is probably making the situation worse. I went through a few months where I was shutting people out while I was trying to deal with the change of merging two families. I am now trying to make things right but I am finding it really hard. It seems like no matter what I do I can't seem to get my wife or her girlfriend to devote any time or affection to me. I am always the one initiating the kisses and hugs and "I love you's" however it is not being reciprocated back to me.
When ever we are doing anything like watching TV or just living normal life they are together all the time. They are always kissing and hugging and cuddling. It makes me happy to see them happy, but I also want to feel important myself. I feel like they are my roommates and not my lovers. This definately isn't helping with my depression or self esteem. I have talked to each of them about this and they said that they would include me more but it doesn't seem like anything is working.
Any ideas on how to solve this problem?