I read this story too. I wonder if this guy ever questions himself. Hmmm.
What I really wanted to comment on was that wonderful comparison list. I am in the place of wanting to grow into a love that has been long-standing (if unrealized) with an old "friend" while maintaining the love I have for my husband. I didn't want to have "an affair" for particularly the reason that I want both to be long-term (all the while knowing that there is no knowing the future). I am also in the ironic position of loving two guys who have both been cheated on in the past (probably an important reason why I prefer to try to do this openly). The odd thing is I know I could sneak around - but I wouldn't want to because these loves mean too much to me.