Hmm, you have nothing to lose by confronting her. That's what I would do (in a loving but straightforward manner). It sounds like she doesn't trust either of you and is very insecure. I would sit down with her and reassure her: "You know, your husband and I have both agreed not to pursue an intimate relationship. You can trust us, no matter what situation we're in. We are friends and that's where it's staying, so I hope you are not uncomfortable with our friendship. He's an important part of my life, and I care about him, and because of that, I am keeping my word not to go any further with him, and respect his commitment to you. I hope we can move forward and leave the past where it is, behind us."
Last edited by nycindie; 11-29-2011 at 11:49 PM.