Hmm, you have nothing to lose by confronting her. That's what I would do (in a loving but straightforward manner). It sounds like she doesn't trust either of you and is very insecure. I would sit down with her and reassure her: "You know, your husband and I have both agreed not to pursue an intimate relationship. You can trust us, no matter what situation we're in. We are friends and that's where it's staying, so I hope you are not uncomfortable with our friendship. He's an important part of my life, and I care about him, and because of that, I am keeping my word not to go any further with him, and respect his commitment to you. I hope we can move forward and leave the past where it is, behind us."
The world opens up... when you do.
Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me. ~Bryan Ferry
"Love is that condition in which another person's happiness is essential to your own." ~Robert Heinlein
Last edited by nycindie; 11-29-2011 at 11:49 PM.