I am hearing that you are hurt but ya know what? Vee's aren't so bad. I live in one and it works fine. Lots of love and togetherness, just that two of us are not gf/bf. Your situation is thee most common scenario for a triad situation over time. Its hard work, but communicating that you feel left out is the best start I think. Be sure that the men in your life aren't caving in and including you because they feel sorry for you though. Pity sex sucks.
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