It really, really sucks to have your image of who someone is -- or at least who you thought they could be -- proven false. I'm sorry. Sometimes you can care for someone very much but realize they're not in a healthy enough place for you to be in a relationship with them. Take care of yourself right now, you will be ok.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.