Originally Posted by dron
I guess that's part of my question, does this situation mean it's time <already> to re-negotiate?
Considering the agreement we made, when I say "Please promise me nothing will happen" and responds with "I feel unfree to be asked that," <-- is this her negating the agreement?
Time to re-negotiate for sure! The implication of that response is that your boundries are meaningless and will only be maintained if it suits her needs in the moment. I think you both need to sit down and not only talk about what boundries you both need but actually talk about what boundries
mean to each of you.