Originally Posted by Fidelia
Someone else may have a different take on the situation, but in my mind this one point stands out clearly.
If you have an agreement in place, you should both honor it. If one of you can't or won't, it's time to renegotiate.
I guess that's part of my question, does this situation mean it's time <already> to re-negotiate?
Considering the agreement we made, when I say "Please promise me nothing will happen" and responds with "I feel unfree to be asked that," <-- is this her negating the agreement?