Thanks for your response. I thought you might say that from everything I'd been reading. We would both love to find someone else to love us both but I think we will need to talk about the fact that may not happen and likely won't and see where we want to go from there.
I'm currently reading an essay "More Than Two" that I found here and it's very insightful and well written. I need to get Rain to read it as well as read threads here if this is something we really want to pursue.