Hmmm, well, I feel a bit silly for going so far in the wrong direction if love developing is fine with everyone involved! This is the line of yours that I picked up on -- "The rules that you might see as excessively restricting or controlling are rules that we agreed upon before entering into this relationship to maintain our own emotional boundaries within the relationship."
May I ask, what does "emotional boundaries" mean in this context if love and emotional intimacy are all good?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.