Originally Posted by lovinhimloviner
Hubby and I have more love for each other every day but we focus our daily life on M and J. It might sound a little out there but out there seems to work for us.
Sounds like the changes are working well for you!
I see what you have done as a really great example of how poly can be useful in providing tools for relationship change. Not that one can't make similar changes in a mono relationship, but usually there's an assumption that it can't be Real Love if you feel like spending less time together. When really there can be love and companionship, and it may just be that the people will be more compatible in a more secondary-type relationship. It's great that you've been able to make that transfer.