Thank you HumanityTheory.
I like the community on this forum. Many times the posts that I read remind me to be calm. To back off. To remember that I am still my own person - as is my partner.
I find relationships hard - I fear being abandoned. The fear exists with friends and family also. It's stupid stuff, left over from a childhood where I often felt as if I was on the outside looking in. And what's even more stupid is that that feeling was unnecessary even in childhood.
But still - it's there. And it's just ridiculous.
Reading posts on this forum very often help me to deal with it in a reasonably constructive way.