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Old 11-24-2011, 08:56 AM
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Does your husband have any long-time friends? Someone that he went to high school with, for example, that was there during a previous break-up, and might know what can help your husband? Granted, they'll be seeing it from a guy's perspective ("uhh, adunno... we just went out and drank a lot of beer and watched some porn) but you never know.

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Originally Posted by AutumnalTone View Post
Have you asked him how to help him through rough spots? Seriously, it seems so many people avoid this simple process.
I know this all too well. I had a really rough exam last month, called my husband needing support, complaining about how hard the exam was and how certain I was that I'd bombed it. He kept saying, "I don't know what to say. There's nothing I can really do to change this situation." Finally I got so frustrated, I had to spell it out: "I don't need you to solve this problem! I know there's nothing you can do about it. JUST BE SUPPORTIVE! Tell me I'm not stupid, tell me it's probably not as bad as I think. You're usually so good at this, stop working for five minutes and be a husband!" and it clicked. But yeah, I've always been pretty good at knowing what I want and just coming out and asking for it explicitly.
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