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Old 11-24-2011, 08:56 AM
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Does your husband have any long-time friends? Someone that he went to high school with, for example, that was there during a previous break-up, and might know what can help your husband? Granted, they'll be seeing it from a guy's perspective ("uhh, adunno... we just went out and drank a lot of beer and watched some porn) but you never know.

Originally Posted by AutumnalTone View Post
Have you asked him how to help him through rough spots? Seriously, it seems so many people avoid this simple process.
I know this all too well. I had a really rough exam last month, called my husband needing support, complaining about how hard the exam was and how certain I was that I'd bombed it. He kept saying, "I don't know what to say. There's nothing I can really do to change this situation." Finally I got so frustrated, I had to spell it out: "I don't need you to solve this problem! I know there's nothing you can do about it. JUST BE SUPPORTIVE! Tell me I'm not stupid, tell me it's probably not as bad as I think. You're usually so good at this, stop working for five minutes and be a husband!" and it clicked. But yeah, I've always been pretty good at knowing what I want and just coming out and asking for it explicitly.
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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