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Old 11-23-2011, 03:07 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Have you asked him how to help him through rough spots? Seriously, it seems so many people avoid this simple process.

The thing is, it's always best to ask about that when he's *not* in a rough spot. In the midst of feeling poorly, he may not feel like engaging in that sort of discussion, despite needing the comfort right then.

I've told my wife--multiple times--exactly what helps when I'm feeling down. She's never bothered to actually pay attention so she can remember it when I've been knocked down by life and can use a hand in getting back up. She'll then come 'round when I'm down and ask what she can do to help...um, not a good time to ask that. It says, in effect, that she really doesn't care as it's never been important enough for her to pay attention to--which adds to the psychological trauma.
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