My wife and I have been married for 7 years, been together 8. Before that I hadn't dated much at all, ever. I've been in a few different short term relationships, and one year long relationship that had almost no courting before I moved in with her.
What I'm getting at is this; I have no idea where to meet women. To add to the awkwardness is the fact that I'm now married and completely out of practice even talking to persons of a female variety with any intention of a romantic involvement. So how the hell does it work? Once I get the attention of a woman, when's an appropriate time to mention that I am married?
On top of all of that I've already been rejected by someone that knew I was married going into it because their spouse wasn't ready to go into a poly relationship (after a bit of an emotional bond had started). I'm so lost, and despite having my wife there for me I now feel lonely because I know that I'm ready for this and I don't know where to start, plus now that I'm no longer talking to anyone she's talking up a guy. I'm jealous of her because she's got someone's interest, and I am not particularly fond of the guy from what I know about him, but I'm not sure how much of that is jealousy and how much is my spider sense.
Advice on where to find women? Advice on how to alleviate a little bit of the loneliness and/or jealousy?