Friendship with your primary's partner is paramont
Nothing set me at ease more about our new decisions than hanging out with my wife's boyfriend to ease everything.
It put it all into perspective and built more respect for him and my wife and I've found that I really cherish their relationship and I *want* them to be happy.
As for what Mono said, I think that is a way to radically fix a problem, but whatever works... sometimes an extreme approach fixes things, but then again, their discomfort might really not be about the physical side of things.
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