Also, I think it's important to note that a temporary "for now, while we're opening up, while I'm getting more comfortable" boundary is very, very different from a "this is how it must be forever" rule. If people aren't being sensitive to that distinction then they ought to be, but I think most are.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.