Annabelle, a couple years ago, a married bi man who called himself poly contacted me on okc. We really hit it off online and met once. But though he and his wife had once shared a male live-in lover, after months of painful online negotiations, we all realized she wasn't comfortable with his emotional interest in, and sexual energy with me. I met with the two of them to talk about it. (Only once, as they live about 100 miles away.)
Much to our dismay, she vetoed our budding relationship and told L that he was only allowed to have emotionless gay male sex with guys from Craigslist looking for the same. It really sucked.
So, there's your one vagina policy. I don't recall if she was bi. I rather think not.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37