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Old 11-21-2011, 09:17 PM
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Originally Posted by zylya View Post
Maybe I'm misreading the situation, but I'm not seeing a whole load of communication going on here.

You ask us not to judge that you're telling your boyfriend to willingly conceal information from his other girlfriend, but then you get mad at her because she's taking a certain night... it just sounds like noone's talking to each other here, or that you're all going through the boyfriend and he's not managing to get the right messages accross.

Have you met this girl? Are you all actively communicating to each other? Does she know that you want Saturdays or are you just hoping your boyfriend will sort it all out.

One of my personal "rules" in poly is that if I want communication expressed, then I express it myself. If you rely on other people to communicate for you, then messages get mixed and your interests aren't taken care of.

Also, what's so good about Saturday that isn't good about Friday?

To explain it simply and how W has put it previously "I am not in a relationship with C, I am in a relationship with R and thats who I will discuss my relationship with"
She is not open to a whole lot of communication with me because she doesn't believe she should have too.
We have met and spent time together and normally its all sunshine and rainbows, but our interactions are very superficial and I don't see us building any kind of great bond because we just aren't connected that way, we are so different.

I get what your saying about not having to rely on my partner to communicate with her, but I just feel that if I brought the topic up with her, that she would get angry.

With regards to Friday Vs Saturday
After working a 40 hour week we are tired and get home quite late which prevents us most of the time from having the desire to do anything.. By Saturday we have recovered and are ready to go out and do something.. I don't know most people say its much of a muchness but spending every Saturday night alone in a new town isn't fun.
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