When my ex and I opened our marriage back in 1999, we had a certain unicorn we decided to pursue. Since I am bi and my ex is not, he at first wanted an OPP. He is a jealous guy, and his entire motivation at first, for polyamory, was to fuck 2 women at once. Since I'd never had a longterm relationship with a woman, he figured an OPP would suit our needs. His for hot 3ways, mine for exploring my bisexuality.
I was clueless at first, and didnt have time for dating, looking for guys, being a busy full time homeschooling mom. So, the OPP didn't really impact my life.
However, ironically, it was our unicorn that pointed out the hypocrisy of this policy, its inherent sexism. My ex saw the light when it came from her, and we did away with the policy.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
Mags (poly, F, 61) loving miss pixi (poly, F, 39) since January 2009, living together since 2013
In a newish relationship with Steve, (33, poly)
"Master," (mono, 36), miss pixi's Dom for 3 years