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Old 11-20-2011, 07:35 PM
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Another suitable term would be "framework."

In other words, your loving relationship and trust in one another is a good foundation to build upon. But your conversations of non-monogamy, and the secrets you've both kept from one another give you a solid idea of where your current walls and doors are, like the framework in a partially-built house. But you can still say "You know what, I don't like that wall there, I want to tear it down. And I want to put in more windows to let in more light." (that would be an analogy to being more open and honest with each other)
As I am sure any cat owner will be able to tell you,
someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.
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