Ya, learning some of that already
I am way too optimistic about lots of this, which isn't like me because normally I border on the pessimistic/realistic view of life.
Not to sound like a member of congress and reserving the right to revise and extend my remarks, but maybe if I try to say it better.....
Foundation? No, that's too strong a word. Perhaps the foundation of the total strengths of our relationship is strong (with serious flaws), but that is not enough to leap into this.
Perhaps the prior conversations provide only a good foundation for all the talks we are going to have to have about all of our issues, not just where we go from here. That one I feel confident about. It is NOT a foundation for poly, its a beginning place for all the work needed to build a foundation, then move forward from there?
This is so helping me put many things in perspective, and assessing things for what they really are, and not just what I want them to be. Thank you all again!