Cindie that is one way to look at it. Another way to go is how miss pixi and I handle it. We tell each other about every crush we get, whether there is sense or opportunity in pursuing an actual relationship with said crush or not.
We don't have big issues with jealousy though. I like knowing who rings her bell, and vice versa. I feel it brings us closer. But that's just us.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37