why not try a gentle nudge in the right direction - start with little things one by one.
"ah, honey, would you mind helping me with these dishes"
"Be a love and take out that trash for us"
"Could you help me with this load of washing - it just needs folding"
etc. etc, etc.
Slowly slowly ease her into taking on some of the roles that take up time around the house. Even if it leads to break up, she will be thankful one day.
Its worth a try, isnt it?
Male M, struggling noob.