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Old 11-18-2011, 10:26 PM
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Well, they can! That's what strapons are for!
Actually, the technical definition of coitus is "Sexual union between a male and a female involving insertion of the penis into the vagina" which means strap-ons don't count. Sure, that's still sex-stuff, and it's still vaginal penetration, but not "coitus" specifically. While I'm more than willing to allow people to use their own definitions for things like "sex" and "making out" etc., clinical terms have very specific, culturally-irrelevant definitions. "Coitus" has got to be the most clinical sounding term I can possibly think of. I can't use that word without thinking of Big Bang Theory...

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I totally respect that view, but to me, any kind of genital arousal and orgasm producing activity is sex, or at least "sexy time."
I see a huge difference between "sex" and "sexy time." Just like I see a huge difference between fucking and making love.

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Ahhh, I love a good makeout session. I think sometimes couples that are used to just fucking don't make out enough. It's romantic.
Agree with the second point. "Just fucking" is terribly unsatisfying.. hence why I think putting "sex" up on a pedestal is pointless. My husband and I do a lot of sexual activities that are not just fucking. I just don't think of those as making out.

I don't really see what's so romantic about making out. I just find the act completely unsatisfying. I love to cuddle, I love intimate kisses that say "I love you" with my lips, I love romantic massages... but I hate the feeling of another tongue in my mouth, it majorly turns me off. My nipples and breasts have issues that usually make them sore to play with much, so someone feeling them up is uncomfortable. I guess I have no aversion to dry-humping, but nor do I have any real interest it... we'll put that one under "indifferent."

In essence, making out, assuming we're using the same understanding of the phrase, just bores me. We have a pretty good toolbox of foreplay, we have a very extensive toolbox of "sexy-stuff that isn't coitus," so none of this is coming from a straight-edge, traditional, missionary only and then only to conceive type mind frame. If anything, it's coming from knowing exactly what I like and don't like, and not wasting time with things I find unstimulating.

Edit: it's also possible that everyone I've ever made out with is just no good at it :P food for thought...
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