Originally Posted by FriarThomas
I guess you'd call it hetero-flexible.
Haha, I love this word!
Thanks for sharing!
I went through a similar moral struggle, although my partner had a girlfriend he was hiding me from & not married with kids...
Although I loved him very much, felt like it was more his problem than mine and didn't want to let go, I was sick of feeling like a dirty little secret and putting his other partner's happiness on the chopping block. We still see each other sometimes but just as friends and not often because the desire is still there.
Everybody is different, but cheating is harmful to all parties and the community. Good luck!
& Welcome to the site!