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Old 11-16-2011, 05:24 PM
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Default Switching gears

So, I imagine this happens to a lot of poly people. You're with lover A and you accidentally use a technique that's adored by lover B but that lover A hates. Embarrassing!!

For me, it would happen with light, stroking touches with the fingertips. Davis finds it very sensual, Gia finds it very ticklish and unsexy. My poor, confused fingers would sometimes go into autopilot when things got hot and heavy and suddenly I'd have messed up the mood!

Got any funny stories on this topic, or any tips on how to avoid it?

It's not just a sex thing OR just a poly thing, of course. My ex, Ziggy, loved spontaneity whereas Davis gets antsy when things aren't planned out, and sometimes I'll call Davis up with a whacky, spur-of-the-moment plan and get confused when he's not enthused the way Z would have been.
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The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.
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