Originally Posted by BaconWrappedCupcakes
I am supposed to see him tomorrow, a platonic lunch. We haven't been intimate in weeks now, but he has seen her (on a day that was supposed to be mine, but I won't dwell on that) and been intimate.
If you read this before the lunch, I would just tell him you're not forcing him to choose anything. You're making your own choice about your safety.
He's saying that to be manipulative and make you feel that you're to blame. You are not to blame. He is, 100%.