Has anyone thought to ask why in this happy 4 yr marriage, that had conversations on this topic (at the margins) .... anyone would have to cheat.
Do soul mates really treat each other this way ?
How long has her relationship been sexual? The good news is you don't have to worry about limiting your communications with GF out of respect for your wife...banging this guy in your bed while you're at work puts a whole new spin on that argument.
What about the STD risks ...how does anyone believe what's said on that topic.
Have you made a similar offer of 3some with your Gf if the gf were agreeable. She could see things in a different light...love and cooperation.
How are the outside partners handling this? Do they even know?