Does the woman have to be poly
Or just attracted to you and not dependent on a relationship where she will requires your full attention and focus?
I'm recently entered your situation, read my "paradigm shift to poly" thread, and you'll see everything I was fearing. What it took for me was simply solid attraction and being open and honest.
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