After a year...
The worst part is walking away... But once you do, you will have so much more respect for yourself and feel more confident in what you believe is right for you.
His manipulative talk sounds incredibly familiar. I know it's confusing and hurtful. But you have to see through it. You are not making him choose anything. He is making YOU choose. And your options with him are terrible.
It's going to be up to you what to do. But just remember ... sometimes a Sub has to pick up the paddle and show them what she's made of.
25 Fm Bi Polywog
Cuddling is good for your soul.