Hi and welcome to the forums!
LR is right about inviting your husband to browse through these forums as well!
Like you I have been married for 30 years, and we have been in a Poly-Fi 'V' for just over the last three years. It took lots of discussions and lots of talk of different scenarios to start this new phase of our lives.
If nothing else, this forum has loads of info, different dynamics, but it will make you talk and express opinions and concerns. What better place to begin than with some open honest commincation!