Also, I don't know you well enough to make any guesses about who you are or what you're like, so don't take this the wrong way. But sometimes if you're not attracting the sort of people you want the problem is you. I would take a hard look at yourself, and ask your true friends for a frank, harsh assessment of what sort of impression you give. How would they describe you at first meeting you? Hope about after getting to know you a little better? The good points, the quirky points, AND the bad points. Hopefully, that'll help you figure out if there are things you could work on about yourself that would help you attract the quality of person you're seeking.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.