Originally Posted by nycindie
Ugh, ridiculous demand. Clearly a way to control you - if you want someone to be with while he's away, how will that work if his requirement is to be there? And if he's okay that you not always be together at the same time, is the woman you find supposed to be willing to just be his toy whenever he's in town? Seems like you want companionship and he just wants sex. I wouldn't accept his terms, and would keep negotiating, if I were you.
Absolutely good points. I have stressed that he would have to be OK with us being intimate in his absence, and that I would be more than OK with them being intimate in my absence (I do work some wacky hours). You are helping me realize that I have not pursued this subject deeply enough.