That's great news!
It's good to hear that he's finally willing to listen your feelings and acknowledge your needs. Of course, this is just the beginning of change, and you'll probably have to remind him often and specifically about how you need to be treated, but if he's finally open to the idea then there's at least a chance he can change.
I'm not the least bit surprised to hear that his definition of "successful marriage" is raising financially successful kids. I go to school with a lot of people from asian cultures, and a lot of the younger generation struggles with that. Their parents want them to be doctors and lawyers, but they want to be dancers and scientists. It's a huge bone of contention, and many of the parents never give their stamp of approval.
I can't even begin to imagine growing up like that. I was so blessed to have parents who loved me no matter what and never cared about what job I had, as long as I was happy. I think that's the greatest gift a parent can give their child: unconditional support and love. Part of why my mom was so adamant about it was that she wanted to be a forest ranger, but her guidance counsellor told her women have to be nurses or teachers. She didn't want to spend her life cleaning out bedpans, so she chose teacher. She hated every minute of it, and didn't want me to suffer the way she had.
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someone else putting you in a box is entirely different
from getting into a box yourself.” —bisexualbaker
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