Question about discloser
I'm pretty new to the poly thing, and I have one big question.
I've dated several women this year, and some of those relationships have overlapped, but exclusivity was never discussed. And while they were all nice women, none of them really "rang my bells" in any serious way.
But just the other day I went out with someone who really does it for me. She's all kinds of awesome, and I could see myself becoming exclusive with her. But she doesn't do exclusive. She's known for a long time that she's born to be poly.
I guess that fits with my life right now, because right now I just want to date a lot of women without getting serious with any of them.
When she was married, she had an agreement with her husband. They had to introduce their potential lovers to each other and get approval to sleep with said potential lover.
Is that normal? Is that generally how things are done?
I'd much rather have a "don't ask, don't tell" arrangement. I don't want to know who else she's with. Is that reasonable?