Let me welcome you as well. I (as many others here) can so realte to all you have written. I have started the journey from the position your wife is in now and it has been really intense up to now. In my case, it has gone really well
I think it's great that you and your wife are able to communicate so well and the methode you choose is (in my opinion) one of the best to stay on track with your needs and wishes. You have had a rough start but I am sure you will get used to the changes that are about to come. Use the time to do some deep soul searching on your part as well as on your wifes, most of the couples experiencing this move so much closer together during the process when they try to figure out how to deal with their feelings and those of their spouse.
Good luck to you two.
On a sidenote: is this about sex or a real relationship she wants to pursue in the long run?
Facts: 30, female, bi, v-type relationship with Sward (husband, straight, mono) and Lin (boyfriend, straight, mono), poly-fi and co-primary.