Originally Posted by Magdlyn
He had been in individual therapy for that whole year and come to more acceptance of his gender ID himself, coming more from a place of strength than shame and guilt.
I'd recommend you continue to see this poly friendly counselor yourself until your wife is ready to join you.
I'm on the end of that road myself. I think I'm finally ready to come out to my wife. I'm still scared that I might lose everything we've built for the last 23 years, but I know now the conversation has to happen. I also know I would never have gotten to this place without the poly-aware MFT I've been seeing for the last two months.
Your story is remarkably similar to mine, MorningTwilight; I'm rooting for you.