Originally Posted by bassman
This was my first attempt at using receiving counselling. I am utterly disgusted that she couldnt be bothered to turn up ! In my wifes words "she shipwrecked us". The issue we have is a huge disagreement on religion. Theres been a teeny weeny bit of progress without counselling - at this point Ive resolved to let time do the work I thought the counsellor might do.
I'm a big fan of "crowd sourcing" for this sort of thing: Yelp, Angie's List, and so on. You can google for "poly-friendly counselor" and cross-reference it with people's ratings and reviews of the counselor to try to avoid picking a dud the next time.
"Poly-friendly" doesn't, of course, automatically mean "take your side," nor should it. It just means that the counselor won't walk into the room thinking you're something out of the DSM that needs to be cured. :-/