I understood where Dinged was going with his comment. I realize it was a rough time for you the day he wrote, but I don't think he was meaning to be sexist initially.
Good luck TP.
it seems everyone has gathered around to help. I hope something works out for the better. I have an idea of where you are coming from and can empathize with your struggle. Kinda late to the game here so I won't bring it all up again.