Hi! I'm in Manhattan - and I see you're in NJ, where I grew up!
I just posted some info re NYC metro area here in this thread:
In general, I try to post announcements for this area (when I come across them) in the Meetings and Events forum.
There's a cocktail party once a month in the East Village. I haven't been to one of these in months, but there's a pre-Thanksgiving party next week (the 14th) and I am planning to go. The group is now planning the December bash, the Second Annual Holiday Party scheduled for Friday night, Dec. 16th. My first meeting with this group was last year's holiday party (their First Annual!) and I enjoyed it immensely.