For me, the thing about messages is that both groups (men and women) are ruining it for themselves:
- Guys sending out bad messages make women want to do it less.
- If a girl doesn't respond to any message that a guy has put effort into, the guy will either put in less effort, or just stop.
It's very easy for everyone to get jaded with online dating, as a woman you get a lot of shitty messages that annoy and frustrate, and as a guy who tries hard you seem to be banging your head against a brick wall. The problem is that the jadedness is caused by an entirely different group of people - the guys who obviously cut/paste to as many pairs of boobs as possible (and let's be honest, that's all they're doing).
I guess what I'm saying is that if you're serious about meeting people online (and not everyone is) then if someone puts a decent amount of effort into actually connecting with you (i.e. has read your profile and tried to write a good message), acknowledging their existence might actually convince them to stick with it. Otherwise all the people actually trying will just drop off and all that will be left is the "hi hw r u bbz?" and "lets mak teh sex" guys.
Try and put yourself in the shoes of someone who's actually read your profile and tried to write a good message (i.e. shows you that they've read your profile and are actually interested in you) and then not having a reply... I don't like it, and if I was actually sensitive to that sort of thing I would've quit ages ago (I realise it's the nature of the beast though :-/ )
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