Thank you for your thoughtful replies.
Background info: I'm 38. She is too. Two kids.
I wish I could say things have gotten better. But my wife has left me. Or is about to.
I told her that I no longer expected her to abide by our agreement. I told her I'd try and take time to work on my jealousy. I said I just need time to process this, but in the meantime I expect it would still hurt me.
That isn't enough, apparently. Because the fact that it hurts me, she says, would make her feel guilty. To stay with me, I have to NOT BE HURT by what she's doing.
What the hell?
I don't know what else I can give. I have promised not to veto anything. I have promised not to forbid anything. I have promised to work on my feelings, think them through.
She can't switch off her feelings. Neither can I. It will take time. Why can't I have it?
What more can I give? Will someone please tell me?
Last edited by DubiousProposition; 11-03-2011 at 02:58 PM.