...people in [poly] relationships have a loving emotional bond, are involved in each other's lives multi-dimensionally, and care for each other.
This. I guess I am not poly then, because while I have a primary partner, I have not found another one to be involved with my life "multi-dimensionally" yet.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
There's no lying in polyamory!
I'm a 58 year old woman with 2 partners:
miss pixi, my live-in gf, 36 (together since Jan '09)
Ginger, bf, 61, married, lives nearby (together since Jan '12)