Also, on this: "I love him very much and don't feel like I have the right to judge him when I was so recently that way..."
Judging -- "GAHD, why are you so stupid and cowardly, ugh, leave me the hell alone!!!"
Not judging -- "This isn't right for me and I'm not going to be involved. Also, as a friend and someone who loves you, I think you might be happier if you reconsidered your position on this... I hope you give it some thought, feel free to call me if you want to talk about it."
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.