I don't see this as a derailment at all, for the record.
It may not be direct answers to the original questions, but it's exploring the ways a new baby interacts with existing relationships with people other than the co-parent, so is all good. Let the thread be what it will!
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.