Originally Posted by MeeraReed
Another thought: actually, NYCindie, I don't know any monogamous people who maintain contact with old lovers/exes.
In fact, most people I know think an ex is someone who should not be in your life at all. And that even if you had a good relationship with someone, it's "your past" and moving on means having no contact whatsoever. Part of what has drawn me to polyamory is that I find that attitude totally bizarre.
By coincidence, I was just about to post a question / discussion about this very issue, which I will do...
I am still friends with a couple of my ex's from high school, in particular, my first love. It took a while for me to understand the reality behind our breakup and realize that things would never have worked for us in the long run, but we've kept in touch for the last 14 years and he's finally found the relationship that he's meant to be in.