Originally Posted by Rarechild
Perhaps you should hold off laying it all out on the table with people that you've just met.
I don't mean to be offensive, but if I were a person in a bar you'd just met, and you came at me that way, I'd take it as a here and now challenge.
Ya if it happens to me with people I know relatively well, I can see how it could be taken as a "here and now" proposition with someone you just met in a bar.
(Off-topic a bit: I met my husband in a bar.)