The OP's position on this is why cheating sites think they can say they are polyamorous sites. Very frustrating I find to be working towards something I consider noble, only to find others working towards giving it a bad name by cheating and saying that they do it because they are poly. In my view anyway. At one point I didn't identify as poly for this reason (and others). Then I decided that I admired the ethics of MOST poly people and wanted to be a part of THAT instead. To me its very important to divide cheating from poly. Poly to me is a way of being inside that can cause people to cheat as a behaviour, but poly is not the behaviour of cheating itself.
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